HOW TO COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY IN MARRIAGE /RELATIONSHIP

 Communication is a major tool or factor that determines the state of any relationship, once communication is porous the marriage or relationship will not stand. 

Communication is not supposed to be parasitic rather symbiotic, it must not come only from one angle, the two parties must be involved totally in it for communication to be effective. sometimes spending and buying lots of gifts does not determine the complete happiness of your spouse but it is the quality time you spend with them that really matters with adequate communication involved. 

Good communication is the basis to understanding our spouse, the big question is; WILL ANY MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP SURVIVE IN SILENCE? Obviously the answer is NO. Communication helps increases stability and excitement in marriage and any relationship, once any relationship suffers poor communication disintegration creeps in. Majority of the time why communication suffers  or die is because we don't listen to understand but we listen to reply.

KEYS TO COMMUNICATING EFFECTIVELY IN MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP

1. Becoming a Perfect Listener: There will not be proper communication without effective listening, sometimes allowing bitterness and resentment to build in our hearts leads to damage in communication. its good to listen without been defensive. You don't have to be talking always it will bore your partner, its nice to stop and listen not just listening to reply but listening to understand. Sometimes  you have stopped to listen but your head is still swirling with all of the things you want to say, so you are still not listening but waiting for when to offload. Proper communication in marriage is like oxygen to life. You cant communicate properly if you are not listening properly.
   
   no matter how busy make out time to communicate effectively with your spouse, it will build bonding among you two

1. 2. Avoid Castigation or making your partner feel inferior:
   
   Most partners because of their level of intelligence they tend to make their partners feel like they are inferior, thus causing the communication to suffer. never make your spouse feel inferior or always castigate the error of your spouse anytime they make a mistake while communicating, it tends to kill the joy in communicate, that in turns exposes them to fear leading to lots of secrets

3. Be Open: Don't expect your spouse to be open when you are not. flexibility comes in communication when both parties are open and don't hide things. 

4.Be specific.

When issues arise, be specific. Broad generalizations like, “You do it all the time!” are not helpful.

5.Freely express positive feelings.

Most people are quicker to express negative feelings than positive ones. It is vital to the health of your marriage that you affirm your spouse. Positive feelings such as appreciation, affection, respect, admiration, and approval are like making deposits into your love account. You should have five positive deposits for every one negative. If your compliments exceed your complaints, your spouse will pay attention to your grievances. If your complaints exceed your compliments, your criticism will fall on deaf ears.

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