The motive at which a person enters a relationship will determine and define its outcome, Some people see relationship as an opportunity or platform to have sex, sex is not the the only way to consummate love, a man who actually tell a woman that the only way to proof her love to him is to have sex.
So many people equate love as a sex and are bothered about sexual compatibility and I am forced to wonder, can we have a committed relationship without sex in the 21st Century?
A committed relationship is an interpersonal relationship based upon agreed-upon commitment to one another involving love, trust, honesty, openness, or some other behavior. Forms of committed relationships include close friendship, long-term relationships, engagement and marriage.
There is no doubt that sex is a natural biological need and every person especially men wants to initiate it almost quickly as you meet a girl, most times the guys don not actually need the relationship, just using her to satisfy his sexual desire in turn hurting the girl. Sometimes many are convinced that a woman will only go to bed if she is emotionally involved and attached to them.
Do you think because you love the person you have to have sex with the person? NO.
You can not build your relationship on sex, you have to build your relationship on God and Purpose. You don't go into a relationship for passion but for purpose: When passion is gone the relationship dies. One of the dangers to indulging in sexuality's before marriage is you might end up marrying the person because of sex and not purpose and this could lead to cheating and divorce. If the foundation of your marriage is built on sex it will fade, if sex cures all lust adulatory would not exist.
Sex is not a test of love, but purpose is,
"HEBREW 13:4:
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.''
The best place to consummate sex is in marriage not in Dating, have sex wearing the safest thing which is not a condom but marriage ring: note; DONT BUILD YOUR RELATIONSHIP ON THE FOUNDATION OF SEX BUT LOVE.
A woman's number one need in relationship is not sex but Affection, affection is not sex. You do not have to give your body physically up to someone to proof love, love is more deeper than that.
Love is a force generated by decision. True love is not feelings, remember feelings are chemical and they change, love is a CHIOCE. Love is an act of will. So premarital sex is unhealthy.
SOME DANGERS OF PRE-MARITAL SEX
1) It will lead to loose of bond if eventually the relationship leads to marriage
2) Unwanted pregnancy, teenage pregnancy, abortion,: These might lead to infertility for the women
3)loss of family support, substance abuse and even suicidal death
4) STIs
5) regrets, guilt, loss of self-respect, depression,
Avoid premarital sex; A relationship can thrive excellently without sex, sex is not the true definition of love and will never be especially when you are not married.
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